Man slammed for refusing to sign wife’s contract to borrow $14,000


The internet slammed a man for refusing to sign a contract for his wife before she loaned him $14,000.

In a post on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman with the anonymous username u/throwaway5253541 shared her story to get feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 7,000 upvotes and 2,000 upvotes.

The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she had been married to her husband for two years. Previously, he was married twice and has six children. He wanted their finances to be shared, which he was fine with, but noticed that he was “wasting” his money and she found it “frustrating”. He told her that he was spending his money on his children and other commitments.

She wrote that his bank account is “almost empty” and that he asked friends and family for money and borrowed $4,000 from his brother. When the OP asked her husband about it, he told her it was for his children, but she finds it hard to believe because her eldest is 16.

“He came over and asked me to borrow $14,000, take it out of my account and into his,” the Redditor explained, “I tried to ask him why he needed that money, but he said it was none of my business, then insisted that he would return it as soon as possible.I said ok, but on the condition that he sign a contract that he would return it. the money in full.He acted all shocked and offended and then explained how much I don’t trust him and his word.I told him that was all I had and that was my one and only condition.

“He kept ranting about me refusing to help him and making it harder for him instead of cooperating. I insisted on a contract being signed before he even pulls a dime and this morning when I told him this one more time he exploded and said we were family and I should be ashamed to involve courts and lawyers between the family. left the house and was so upset that he hasn’t returned any of my calls yet,” she concluded.

Newsweek contacted u/throwaway5253541 for comment.

Above, a man tries to persuade a woman. Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man has come under fire online for refusing to sign a contract for his wife to lend him $14,000.
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What to do if your loved one has a spending problem

It is quite common for someone to spend more than they should. According to, 52% of Americans exceed their monthly budget. Does your partner have a spending problem? has some tips on how to approach the problem with your partner:

  • Avoid making judgments: To avoid an argument, try asking your partner questions and get their side of the story and learn how to avoid overspending in the future.
  • Provide proof that there is a problem with their spending: By creating a spreadsheet or chart, you can visibly show your partner that they are spending too much.
  • Call a professional: If you have trouble talking to your partner about money, try talking to a financial counselor or therapist.
  • Create financial goals: Try to have the same financial goals to make saving easier. Create goals on how to save money for something important like a vacation or just to pay off what’s owed.

Newsweek posted several money-related articles, including a husband who was criticized online for raging at his partner for saving money every month. In another, a woman was urged not to give her parents money after repeatedly losing theirs to scams, and in another story the internet slammed a man for ‘wasting his money’ and expects her partner to buy her food.

Editors’ reactions

[Not the a**hole] – Sounds like drug addict behavior. Is he a player? If it were drugs, he’d ask for smaller amounts more often, but that feels like gambling debt,” u/Justagirleatingcake wrote, receiving the highest comment of over 10,000 upvotes.

“‘Hey honey, can I have half your savings? What’s the point? It’s none of your business, ungrateful witch!!’ Obviously [not the a**hole]“said u/DouniaLag.

U/Spare-Article-396 exclaimed, “Fuck no, [not the a**hole]. He can’t play the “we’re family” card while playing the “none of your f**king business” card. OP, I’m not usually one to resort to such drastic judgments, but your marriage is in deep trouble. In fact, I wouldn’t lend it at all.”

“Made me laugh [to be honest] .. he wants separate finances but you can’t ask him why he needs your money and doesn’t want to sign a contract .. if you can’t see him OP .. listen to strangers on the internet and see the [red flags]“, asked u/sw33tlips.


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